Relationships Begin and End with Respect
I was not in the mood to write today at all. But I always say nothing happens by accident. Things led me to ponder on relationships. I hope at least one person will find something that can be useful to them in their relationships.
No one goes on a journey alone. We depend on others in both material and immaterial ways to move us towards our objectives in life. Relationships are the glue that holds spouses, children, friends and everybody together.
To build a solid relationship there must be:
- Respect-Everything starts with mutual respect. Every person that God created is valuable and placing value on people is very important in maintaining a relationship. My take on respect is even if others haven’t earned your trust they deserve respect simply because they are human beings. What you make happen for others God will make happen for you.
- Trust-Trust is a necessity for all good relationships intending to last. If we are paranoid and think everyone is out to get us, eventually we find we are left all alone. Scottish poet George MacDonald said, “To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” Without trust it becomes difficult to sustain any kind of relationship. If you have earned trust but are still being treated as an outsider. Move on. Sometimes human beings let pettiness, jealousy and fear get in the way of what could have been a mutually beneficial relationship.
- Reciprocity-I have learned by personal experience that a relationship that is one-sided will not last. If someone is always the giver and the other the receiver the relationship will eventually collapse. That may actually be a good thing. Because if you are in any team in this playing field we call life, there should be mutual enjoyment and if there isn’t; then maybe you and that person are in different places in life, with different goals and aspirations. What is important is that you do the right thing. You try. Give people your full attention and show them you care. Be honest and open. But at the end of the day, not everyone will like you. That is also fine.
What matters most is your happiness. I always like to say this. Jesus said “love your neighbor as yourself not more than yourself.”And if that guy you like is treating you shabbily, the popular girl in school is ignoring you or if you just feel your family and friends don’t understand you. Remember this unshakeable truth. God created you in His image. When He did that He said “It is good”. You are created good. Nothing can separate us from the love of God and He, the Author and the Finisher of your faith, the Alpha and Omega desires a relationship with you. That has to count for something and should count for everything.